Blessings in disguise
On some days, I feel so hurt that even breathing is hard. And then on some other days like today, I feel inspired and loved, sitting in my couch blogging smelling the lovely scents of mini roses and lilies.
One finds true friends in tough times. It’s a self eliminating process. It’s a blessing in disguise. Do I have to go through trying times like now just to find out who my true friends are? The ones that stick around regardless, the ones that ask how are you feeling, the ones that understand and empathize, the ones that don’t take you for granted…
Someone said to me today that she doesn’t want to date because she’s afraid to lose her innocence and ideals. Funny enough, I pondered about that exact same question in the shower this morning. I don’t want to end up jaded or cynical when it comes to dating like the girls in Sex and the City. They have seen way too many bad or weird men. Not date anyone is not a solution if you want to find that special someone. Fear is not going to help you find the answer. So just how do you maintain those ideals? Where do ideals actually meet reality? And even though you have all the ideals that you desire, like my best friend so well put, what you want is not necessarily what you need, nor is it necessarily what’s good for you.
There are real nice guys (real men) out there. Just keep believing in it with unrelenting optimism and determination, even if you might have to take a leap of faith.
A friend sent this to me today. I don’t agree with all of it but I got the spirit of the message. So as naive as it sounds, I believe that my prince does exist.
Any guy can mess around, it takes a real man to find a girl and stick with her.
Any guy can call you sexy, hot, and all that.. it takes a real man to call you beautiful.
Any guy can call you in tears begging you to take him back, it takes a real man to not have a reason to be in those tears.
Any guy can say I love you, it takes a real man to say it and mean it even if all of his guy friends are standing around.
Any guy can drive over to your house to hang out with you, it takes a real man to show up unexpected.
Any guy can have sex with a girl, it takes a real man to wait.
Any guy can be with you on the best days when everything is ok, it takes a real man to stay by your side for weeks if thats what it takes when it feels like your world is falling apart.
Any guy can talk noise with his friends when a sexy girl walks by, it takes a real man to look the other way.
Any guy can be sweet and true to your face, it takes a real man to stay sweet and true when you’re gone.
Any guy can give you a hug, it takes a real man to just hold you.
Any guy can answer the phone when he knows you’re having a bad day, it takes a real man to call you throughout the day just to make sure you’re ok.
Any guy can hit reply to a text msg, it takes a real guy to be the person who sends a msg first.
Any guy can read this message and swear to themselves that this is them, it takes a real man to actually do these things.